I officially have an old toddler.
I am writing this after a pleasant day with both the Fudgelet and the Chiplet. It has been a rough week. The Chiplet randomly went from doing awesome naps like clockwork to short naps and being cranky about it too. So much screaming and crying from the three of us. And then poor K got to come home each day when we were all exhausted and cranky. So, I don’t know if he just had a rough patch and today is back to normal, or if today was a gift and the “rough patch” is the new normal. Either way, with how fast time is flying, all of the baby sleep problems will be over before I know it.
I am writing this to you after having my first whole week alone with both boys while K is at work. The week started off a bit nerve-wracking (it’s only been an hour!?) to “oh, this is manageable,” and then back to “I’m tired and there is no nap time for me since the Fudgelet doesn’t get naps anymore zzzzz.” It has also been tricky since it is the middle of flu season and almost all of our friends are sick. Play places are also off limits since they carry so many germs. I’m not taking any risks until the Chiplet has at least had his first big set of shots. And even then, I will just make us hermits for this cold season. So not only am I counting down each day until K comes home and I get to have a mini break for a workout, but I also count each week until K is home to have another adult to talk to, and I am counting months until spring.
I’m just writing a little post now and who knows, maybe after the Chiplet is here I will have time to update with some family pictures or something. In the meantime, I want to share that although it is the first Christmas I won’t be “home” in Maryland with family, I still get to be with family in our home. Hopefully next year we can once again travel to Maryland to see everyone for Christmas (and other visits, too) but for now, it is nice to have a cozy place to celebrate without hopping on an airplane. My dad and stepmother M will already be back in Maryland by now. My brother and family were visiting Maryland for Thanksgiving, and then my dad and M were coming after their visit to meet the Chiplet and see us. Then, with a little time in-between, K’s parents are coming around Christmas to stay with us for a bit, too. So, although we don’t get to see all of our family members, we still get some family time that I know the Fudgelet will love.
Because I knew Thanksgiving would be a hectic time for us, we planned an early Friendsgiving to celebrate. We also did some early Christmas decorating because I wanted the Fudgelet to be able to still celebrate. As I write this, we are not yet at this point, so I am only predicting. But, I am planning all of this to keep some normalcy in these exciting times.
I am happy to have been able to share another calendar year on this blog with everyone and hope you are also having time with family and friends.
As I expected, the Chiplet arrived early. Even earlier than I expected, especially since I had started to doubt myself. I had no indications he was coming anytime soon, so I figured I was just being overly hopeful. Here I was with so many things ready (although I still had a couple tasks I hadn’t done since I had been feeling poorly the week prior to his arrival), and I figured I had jinxed myself. That he was not only coming later, but maybe even late!
So, Happy Thanksgiving and here is something I am thankful for this year that I didn’t even predict last year:
Come back next week for more pictures and the birth story!
I know it’s been awhile since I’ve written to you on here. Over a year, in fact! But, it’s not like you haven’t been all over this blog anyway. So, I hope you don’t mind. Besides, I now get to have full conversations with you in person, so I don’t need to share everything to some future Fudgelet. (Will I call you just Fudge on here when you get older?)
It’s been awhile since I mentioned the almost-here baby, so I decided to write a little about our wait for him. To start, I have decided to name him Chiplet on the blog. Of course, outside of the blog, we still haven’t finalized a name for him, but I think Chiplet is appropriate. It goes with chocolate (chip) or potato (chip) which are favorites in this house. And, it goes with Fudgelet. Fudgelet and Chiplet. Maybe when they are teenagers I can call them Fudge and Chip, haha.
So, we know he is a boy, we know he is very active inside of me compared to the Fudgelet, and he enjoys spreading out across my entire belly (the Fudgelet used to just curl up on one side or the other). In a month, he should have arrived already, but of course there are no guarantees for that.
This pregnancy has not been easy, but it hasn’t been as difficult as it could be. And of course I feel lucky to be able to have him at all. The Fudgelet is very excited about meeting his brother. He talks to him and about him constantly. We might have to work on his sharing skills (sometimes he does great with it, but other times is kind of a jerk like most toddlers). I’ve been trying to plan for the scenarios I know about, like the rough first few months. With it being the end of the year, we usually save most of K’s vacation time for the holidays, so it works out for us. We can have him use sick time/vacation time to be around for most of the first month or two, along with some grandparents visiting. Then, we can have him around for more time the following year because his work extended paternity leave, which is great! Normally I take care of the Fudgelet in the morning while he gets ready for work, but K will take over most of those duties (especially at the beginning) while I am feeding the baby and getting myself up. We’ve already switched to where K does most of the bedtime routine for the Fudgelet so that won’t need an adjustment, and we have been trying to prepare him for some of the challenges (like training him to be more independent with getting his shoes on/etc.).
I’m more nervous this time than last time, I think, because I worry about taking care of two kids, night wake-ups, exhaustion, dividing attention, feeding everyone, etc. And that’s all outside of the actual labor/delivery part which I’m kind of blocking from my brain right now because there isn’t much I can do for that ahead of time. I’m just hoping it is as short as last time, or shorter, so that the Fudgelet won’t get too worried.
Some preparing I did this time better than last time (#fridgedrama) is making meals. This time I am doing some big trips to the stores ahead of time (stocking up on meat, etc.) and prepping some of the stuff, too, like slicing the beef for stir fries. I have different meals that mostly just require heating (or maybe making something simple like pasta and/or a veggie to go with them). I also set aside some sheet cake in the freezer, as well as some frozen cookie dough. Dessert might seem frivolous, but sometimes it can cheer you up with a long week. Although you can always buy store desserts, they are not always as good, or are tricky to get with a baby (and a toddler).
I have been making sure I have blog posts ready for the start, as well, but there might be a lag or limited posting. When I can, I will update about life and food. You can also always check in on some social media sites in case I post there before I have time to write something official on here.