If you want to refresh your memory from 14 months, here it is. I left off talking about his snuggles, and really he is still like that. He has separation anxiety in such a big way. It started when he was around a year, but it has gotten worse over the last few months. What makes it really bad is he mostly wants me. Even K isn’t enough to appease him sometimes. I think part of it is he sees me as his food source (he doesn’t like to eat much for other people) and his source for sleep, so if he is hungry or tired, he wants to come to me. He also wants to come over to me to check on me and make sure I’m still around and okay. So, all of this to say that he is still quite attached. I’m not worried, though, since I remember the Fudgelet was also quite attached and he has no problem being dropped at school; sometimes, he won’t even say goodbye until I remind him!
So, what has changed since last summer? Well, the Fudgelet has been in preschool which is a major change for us. I wasn’t sure how it would go but it has been great for him. Even though he knows most of what they are teaching, he isn’t bored and finds it fun. As of the time I am posting this, I will have had a conference with his teachers to hear about his progress. But, I am writing this ahead of that soooo I am hoping he has been good.
So, I thought I was only going to update every 6 months or so now but then I remembered doing every 2 months for a bit with the Fudgelet so I might do that at least for now. I thought of it because I was thinking about all of the advances he has made since I last posted about him…and yet I didn’t get to share it. But now I can! It was fun reading back over the Fudgelet’s post too.
I had already posted about the Chiplet turning 1 year old but I didn’t get a chance to share his pictures from his birthday or his party. So, as you recover from Christmas parties, let’s talk birthday parties!
So, here we are! We made it to one year. Knowing that there is a lot going on this month, I can pretty much guarantee the Chiplet’s one year pictures will have to be shared in an upcoming post instead, but I still wanted to post about this milestone. I finally have two kids who aren’t “babies” even though they kind of still are.
So, in Chiplet news, there has been some great news and much progress! I am getting a little anxious trying to plan for his birthday. I’m trying to figure out what kind of party I will do since I want to do something…but it is tricky since many of our friends have a lot going on this time of year. So, we shall see…but let me update you on what he has been doing.
As I write this, I am freaking out a bit. Today we took you to your preschool orientation. In a few days you will start preschool for real. While we sat at the orientation, I started to panic that I had chosen the wrong school.
- It seemed too crazy as we went in with all of the other families there.
- The bathroom is a public one and you get scared of how loud they flush…now you will have to flush them on your own.
- You just wanted to play solo and K mentioned that a Montessori school might have been a better fit after all (I still don’t think so but this gave me doubts too).
- They “hope” to teach you to read 25 words but you can already read every word in the room and more.
- Will you learn anything?
- Will you be safe?
- Are the teachers going to look out for you?
- Are you going to miss me?
- How will I make sure to get you on time when pick-up is during his usual nap and if I’m even a minute late you might worry?
And then I started to realize that my fears had nothing to do with the specific school. I mean, they do, but I would come up with any fears for your first time away from me. You will be with people I barely know and I won’t know what is happening while you are gone. The first day I might not cry, but I will likely be in a state of panic the whole time.
What do I hope for you with school?
- You will have fun.
- You will learn academics but also common sense and social skills, too.
- You and I will learn to be okay being separated for lengths of time.
- You will be excited to go.
- You will make friends.
- You will like your teachers, but still think I’m ok.
- You will be excited for Kindergarten.
- You will not be bored but will find everything interesting.
- You will not be the perfect student, but will try hard and mostly follow directions.
- You will be safe.
- You will listen and absorb, but also remember and follow what we teach you at home.
This will post on the day you have your first field trip. It is also the day I need to bring in snacks for the class. I did that on purpose, to help remind myself, haha. I think I will be there for your field trip, so we shall see how it goes. And by then, we will hopefully be following our new routine of school days and days off without as much panic.
Happy Start of School! Your life will be changing so much and you are now out in the world. I hope the world isn’t too hard on you but that you learn some good lessons along the way.