I wanted to share some of our Halloween fun, even though it is already another holiday. Maybe I will share Thanksgiving stuff on Christmas, haha.
Last month K had to do a work trip. Since I knew about it ahead of time I asked my dad and M if they wanted to come hang with me and the kiddos to help out. Sure enough, they were able to come and we got almost a week with them! It was great. One of the nights they wanted to make matzo ball soup using M’s family recipe. The Fudgelet was super excited to help make the matzo balls. They started the soup in the morning and then after the Fudgelet had school, they made the balls. He couldn’t roll them into balls but did the scooping and filling. Earlier in the day I had the realization that I could contribute, too! I had made challah bread the previous month and it made two loaves, so I had frozen one. This was the perfect time to pull it out and share.
So, in Chiplet news, there has been some great news and much progress! I am getting a little anxious trying to plan for his birthday. I’m trying to figure out what kind of party I will do since I want to do something…but it is tricky since many of our friends have a lot going on this time of year. So, we shall see…but let me update you on what he has been doing.
I finally feel comfortable writing to you about this. Back when you were newly 8 months old, I gave you some peanut butter. You had it before that and were fine, but this time it was either having had it for a few times or the fact that I gave you a bit more, but you had an allergic reaction. We took you to get tested a few days later. It was not fun…we waited for almost an hour before the doctor came in to explain the test, and then it was a short few minutes to see that you had a peanut allergy…and a dairy allergy! We still don’t know about tree nuts since they are waiting to test you for that, but we were quite distressed. It didn’t help that they immediately started explaining how to use an epi pen and throwing around “and then call 911” over and over without answering our questions about your allergies.
Finally they talked to us about what we could do moving forward. We ended up switching offices for various reasons, but in the meantime we weren’t allowed to give you a lot of different kinds of food. You wouldn’t believe all the places they hide milk/butter/etc. I started making bread for you and figuring out substitutions.
When a couple months had passed, we were able to do a baked milk challenge. I had to follow their recipe using a cake mix and lots of milk and milk powder. I’m sorry the cupcakes didn’t turn out so well. I promise I can make better cake than that, but I have never been good with box mixes. You and I were in a single room for 4.5 hours. You would get a bite (or more) of cupcake and then we would wait to see if there was a reaction. I kept you entertained in the Ergo baby carrier (where you also napped) and bouncing you on my lap. You wanted to wiggle all around but were fairly happy practicing your waving and babbling. Somehow we made it through and now you are able to have dairy baked into things, as long as it isn’t a major ingredient. In fact, we have to make sure you eat it so that you can build up a tolerance. I was so excited! For your birthday I plan on making a chocolate cake. Vanilla cake would be nice but most require too much dairy and I don’t want to do weird substitutions. I want you to have as normal a birthday cake as I can. You have already been loving the new foods you can eat, including egg scrambled with milk.
Even if you don’t outgrow your allergies, I hope you never feel like you are missing out. I have been so sad worrying about you and how you will feel, but then I realized that if this is how your life is, and if I find other special treats to make for you, then the treats you can’t have won’t seem upsetting to you. And besides, I still get to make you chocolate chip cookies which is very exciting to me. We’ll worry about things like ice cream and buttercream frosting later.
I’m also grateful you are growing up in a time when allergies are common enough that people respect them. Milk is tricky since most people think it is like lactose intolerance, which is completely different, but we can help train you and the Fudgelet to know what is okay for you. You have so many people looking out for you and crossing their fingers!
As I write this, I am freaking out a bit. Today we took you to your preschool orientation. In a few days you will start preschool for real. While we sat at the orientation, I started to panic that I had chosen the wrong school.
- It seemed too crazy as we went in with all of the other families there.
- The bathroom is a public one and you get scared of how loud they flush…now you will have to flush them on your own.
- You just wanted to play solo and K mentioned that a Montessori school might have been a better fit after all (I still don’t think so but this gave me doubts too).
- They “hope” to teach you to read 25 words but you can already read every word in the room and more.
- Will you learn anything?
- Will you be safe?
- Are the teachers going to look out for you?
- Are you going to miss me?
- How will I make sure to get you on time when pick-up is during his usual nap and if I’m even a minute late you might worry?
And then I started to realize that my fears had nothing to do with the specific school. I mean, they do, but I would come up with any fears for your first time away from me. You will be with people I barely know and I won’t know what is happening while you are gone. The first day I might not cry, but I will likely be in a state of panic the whole time.
What do I hope for you with school?
- You will have fun.
- You will learn academics but also common sense and social skills, too.
- You and I will learn to be okay being separated for lengths of time.
- You will be excited to go.
- You will make friends.
- You will like your teachers, but still think I’m ok.
- You will be excited for Kindergarten.
- You will not be bored but will find everything interesting.
- You will not be the perfect student, but will try hard and mostly follow directions.
- You will be safe.
- You will listen and absorb, but also remember and follow what we teach you at home.
This will post on the day you have your first field trip. It is also the day I need to bring in snacks for the class. I did that on purpose, to help remind myself, haha. I think I will be there for your field trip, so we shall see how it goes. And by then, we will hopefully be following our new routine of school days and days off without as much panic.
Happy Start of School! Your life will be changing so much and you are now out in the world. I hope the world isn’t too hard on you but that you learn some good lessons along the way.
Let me start by saying I spent much of this last month feeling anxious about the Chiplet. I know every kid is different but it is hard not to compare the brothers, or even with the milestones you see online. But, thankfully, I am feeling a bit better about things and the Chiplet is exactly the same level of happy that he has been his whole life.
Did you read the title? If you did then you can see that I made multiple cakes for the Fudgelet this year. We made rainbow cupcakes for his actual birthday and then his birthday party was a few weeks later. Since his birthday is so close to K’s birthday, we just made a small batch of cupcakes and then made a big cake for K this year (some years I do a smaller cake for K). And I knew the Fudgelet would get more cake at his party.
Let’s start with the cupcakes!